I am a 64 year old Caucasian male. I live in a middle class suburb of Melbourne, Australia. I was educated to a level where I can make informed decisions and understand the implications of my actions. I have access to world leading health care. I can afford to buy food and drink whenever I need to. I have zero debt and unless I make serious errors of judgement I should be able to live the rest of my life in the same way I have so far – safe from famine and hunger, safe from war and bloodshed, safe from suppression and tyranny. I know right from wrong and have a clearly defined set of ethics that guide me whenever I need to make decisions or take action. I make no apology for any of this. It is my context. It is my life. It is my current existence. However, my life has not always been this good and I know what it is to struggle – admittedly, within my own white bread world.
So it is with the perspective (from my brief personal history) that I make the following statement – “I promise unequivocally that whenever I see an abuse of privilege and/or power, within my community, I will act. I will not sit on my hands or be a spectator. I will not look to someone else to take a stand. I will do whatever I can, with whatever means I have at my disposal, to highlight and address this abuse”.I have in the past acted strongly against bullying both in the workplace and my personal life. I have in the past called out and dealt with unethical behavior, personal bias and discrimination. I have resigned from organisations when I have encountered actions that have challenged my personal code of ethics. From today I am going to redouble my efforts and increase my focus on what I consider to be these totally unacceptable behaviors.
Today I make a promise to all those within my community (who do not possess the same level of privilege and power as I) that I will act on their behalf. This is not from a perspective of being a vigilante, this is about being a decent human being who doesn’t cross the road or close their eyes to avoid an intolerable situation.
When men (and, in my experience, it is men 99% of the time) abuse their privilege and power they are showing weakness. These “men” are morally bankrupt and ethically bereft. These “men” are cowards who pray on those with less privilege and power. These “men” should be shown up for what they are – bullies, tyrants, abusers – some of the ugliest people in our society.
By letting these “men” get away with the behaviors I have described we give them more privilege and more power. We feed their hunger. We protect them. We encourage them. We even support them.
I am no figurehead or leader. I do not possess fortune or fame. I am an “average Joe”, with my own failings (that I try to learn from every day). But I will endeavor to “punch above my weight” in this situation and lead by example.
Today, I am one person standing up and saying “If you cross the line by disrespecting, disempowering or humiliating others less fortunate than yourself I will be there and I will not look the other way. I WILL ACT. I WILL STAND AGAINST YOU. I WILL DO ALL I CAN TO TAKE AWAY THE PRIVILEGE AND POWER YOU ARE ABUSING AND MISUSING.
In the meantime, I am here to provide whatever support I can to those who have been abused and disrespected. I will not pry or judge or meddle. I will respect the privacy of those who approach me. I will honor my promises. I will not wait for others to follow.
None of these self-absorbed, self-indulgent, deluded individuals have power over me and I do not seek to have power over them. I just want everyone in my community to feel safe and respected. I do this from a belief system where LOVE CONQUERS ALL.
Dateline: Sunday October 22; Page, Arizona